Before understanding this difference, we should review the psychological and biological peculiarities of human being:
- From the psychological point of view, every person form his point of view and behavior from the sense that he felt in early childhood. These senses were used for organism by sensation to gather the initial information about the world. These senses are attention and approval.
- From the biological point of view, every human being as animal has three main instincts that helps to lead and move in their life: survival, reproduction and care of offspring.
These peculiarities make great influence on men and women and difference in parenting make great difference to understand each other. Let us review the parenting of men and women in separate way to view how it differs:
The parenting of Man
The first woman in the life of man is his mother. She gives him initial attention and care, praise and approval. These psychological processes helps the man in his childhood understand himself and world around him. However, the lack of it makes him feel the sense of helplessness and worthlessness. These perceptions are memorized in the body of the child and save sensory information to understand attention and approval to himself. When the child become younger he tries to communicate with girls but depends his perception of helplessness and worthlessness, he can be shy or modest with girls. If his mother did not give him enough attention and approval, the lack of it can cause the aggression to the girls. Attention and approval compose the sense of self-worth of the personality. If the man has the lack of it, his first instinct of survival is under danger and then there appears the second instinct – reproduction, the desire of sex.
So the man who has lack of woman approval that was memorized by his bode in his child hood has more the desire of sex and do not trust woman. He wants to search the right woman who gives him attention and approval. However, he does not understand that it can gives only his mother. Man seek and change woman by woman in his life until he understand that he does not need any attention and approval and then he became the real man who is loved by many women and he does not need their attention any more cause he has the only woman who he loves the best of all. However, it is a fairy tale of many women and in real life, it is far from true. Sometimes the man wants to compensate his perceptions of helplessness and worthlessness and buy expensive car or meet with beautiful women to confirm his importance, attention and approval. He is not serious in such way and only tries to get attention like in his childhood to be noticed and important.
The parenting of Woman
Girls are parented with love and care but the main understanding of the world and initial perceptions gives her father. Father plays an important role in the patenting of the girl. Father gives her the example of the man with whom she wants to create her family. If a girl did not have enough father’s attention then the every man in her life is good example of the man and she starts her sexual relations in very early age. Then she became understand that men are cruel and deceivers and tries to choose carefully the man in her life. It depend how much attention and approval she was received in her childhood she can wait for the right man in her life or seek the man’s love and trust the every man who pays her love and attention.
There are the reason why men and women are not come together and not become couples. It does not mean that Ukrainian or Russian or American women are not trustful. There are modest and decent women in every country but most of the men think girls are bitches who want only money from them. It is the misunderstanding of the nature of the human being and parenting of men and women. If the man understands it and has not lacks or complexes, it would be easier for him to find the right woman of his life. Dreamonelove.com offers the men to make their choice and seek their destiny at the site.